tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post6543458551072920640..comments2023-06-03T06:02:45.149-07:00Comments on Private Bentina: Preschool?Christinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02446085633523991387noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-42443022784545894012010-06-04T13:58:40.196-07:002010-06-04T13:58:40.196-07:00I have had the same conversation with Ken about Ol...I have had the same conversation with Ken about Olivia. She is a smart, lovable, social creature who would love preschool. People ask me all the time what preschool we are putting her in next year, but I am really having a hard time letting her go. We go on playdates almost daily, she loves the library and doing classes, and she is my bundle of joy. Part of it is because she is my last, but I have decided to keep her home one more year so we can be together. That is why I stay home, to teach and nurture, and I have decided one year of preschool will be enough. It was a hard decision, but I am sure it is the right one for me, and luckily one other parent agrees, so thank you.MommyHalehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636332055530499053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-87638074113461646102010-06-04T14:24:04.516-07:002010-06-04T14:24:04.516-07:00We have been pondering this too. I feel that James...We have been pondering this too. I feel that James has his letters and numbers pretty good but he needs the social skills and self control skill. Preschool is a bit too pricey for us but we have a YMCA memebership and we go everyday for classes. He has a reading class, music class, art class and preschool games class. They are 45 min. then he goes to the Adventure Zone to be a boy with the other active kids and has made good friends all the while I am able to get some time to myself and exercise. It is a win win situation and then I am with him the rest of the day. If there is anything wrong they can come and get me thus alowing his independance and me the ablility to jump in easily if he needs me. Good luck. You are amazing!Susie and Jay Larsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13221139875327838252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-77315167961416903362010-06-04T15:07:17.008-07:002010-06-04T15:07:17.008-07:00Wow, now I feel kind of sad just thinking about le...Wow, now I feel kind of sad just thinking about letting go. I think that's probably one of the hardest things you do as a parent. Especially as a mom who devotes her entire life to raising her children.Kristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15798087594885841100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-8311916412272895862010-06-04T17:05:09.564-07:002010-06-04T17:05:09.564-07:00Let me start by saying that I'm not commenting...Let me start by saying that I'm not commenting here to completely disagree with you, I just want to throw out my experience here...<br>I thought I felt the same way, that I wanted to keep N at home for another year and maybe even hold him back a year in kindergarten because he didn't seem entirely ready, choosing a school was hard, money, I wanted more time, etc. - all the reasons you list. BUT - then when we ended up putting N in the little birth-to-three preschool this spring for some PT and speech therapy, I have had the opportunity to first-hand watch him in a school environment. He eats it up and LOVES it so much. I have seen him progress SO much in just 2 months. Now that he's caught up, I decided he needed to go to preschool in the fall and that I could live without him for 2.5 hours twice a week. It has nothing to do with wanting him to be a genius or way ahead or anything intellectual. I've read that it really doesn't matter because they all pretty much catch up in kindergarten regardless. I just feel like part of being a parent is encouraging independence and helping children become their own people. While I hate this whole letting-go-thing, I feel like it's just something I have to face. I also don't feel like I can give him all the experiences a preschool environment can. I realize that for him, if I keep him at home too much, it just holds him back developmentally - he needs that structured environment to challenge him.<br>So, I made the opposite decision. :) (but I know lots of people who aren't doing preschool in the fall, we all have to do what's best for our own individual children)Daniellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15676485158487357907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-38701532556087576472010-06-04T17:10:52.437-07:002010-06-04T17:10:52.437-07:00I 100% agree with everything--I totally understand...I 100% agree with everything--I totally understand. Only I'm having trouble putting Jonas into nursery!!TheBenandKatieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14238706885576384040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-613947668739234052010-06-04T19:25:26.868-07:002010-06-04T19:25:26.868-07:00I hope I wasn't coming across as saying this w...I hope I wasn't coming across as saying this was the right decision for everyone- I wasn't trying to say that at all!!!!! One thing I have learned about parenting: There is no one right answer. Everybody has to come up with what works best for them! Every family chooses their own path, and that is the beauty of being parents- we get to choose what path to take our family on. Right now this is ours- but a year from now, it might be a completely different one. As long as we are doing what we feel is best for our own individual children, then I would say we are doing the "right" thing-even if it looks different from our neighbors.Christinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02446085633523991387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-36856039283518355362010-06-04T20:37:39.839-07:002010-06-04T20:37:39.839-07:00Oh. And I don't think anyone should view pres...Oh. And I don't think anyone should view preschool as a daycare. 'nuf said.Daniellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15676485158487357907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-23328740253495500272010-06-05T20:31:17.200-07:002010-06-05T20:31:17.200-07:00I've read studies on this. Kids do better soci...I've read studies on this. Kids do better socially the longer they stay at home. They don't have as many issues with separation anxiety because they are more secure with their relationships with they mommies. I am sending Daniel to preschool this year ONLY because he missed the cut off by 1 day and I feel he is ready. Also, it is just 2 hours 4 days a week. Keep your baby home, don't kick her out yet. This is your final chance to keep her home before she enters the very secular world.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10963831153683396110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8438038746640767007.post-10381404653448059022010-06-06T02:00:45.604-07:002010-06-06T02:00:45.604-07:00Good discussions on here. Just to add another per...Good discussions on here. Just to add another perspective, as a working mom whose kids are in daycare. It definitely is all day pre-school. They play games, they learn sign language, they learn to count, read, etc. I agree with Danielle that you aren't putting kids in pre-school for a few moments for yourself, you are putting them in there for the growth your child gets out of it emotionally, educationally, socially. However, each parent is the best judge of their children. I was shocked when we moved to England and my kids started full day school here an entire year earlier than they would have in the States. We felt both of our kids were ready and we were excited. I have been absolutely amazed at how much they have learned and grown, at a faster rate than I would have ever thought. So my advice would be, do what is best for you, but don't underestimate your kids. Challenge them, teach them, love them!Shellshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08520694321355830628noreply@blogger.com