Of course, in regards to love, there have been a million studies about attraction, how to stay together forever, etc. I am definitely not trying to say that he is the be all, end all on love- and certainly there will be a million exceptions to every rule on love ever imagined. One thing he said, though, really stuck with me because it described Ben and me quite well, and I was curious to hear if others thought their relationships fell in the same category.
He said in his research he found that couples who were "matched opposites" had the most long lasting and deep relationships (again, understand there will be a million exceptions- let's not categorize this as the only way to have a successful relationship- that would be rediculous). What is a "matched opposite?" That is when you are matched in your values and beliefs, but you are opposites when it comes to personalities and interests. He said the values hold you together through thick and thin, but the opposite natures drive the passion and excitement of the relationship. He said if you were "match/match" then you were great friends, but not lovers (sorry, I didn't want to use that word on a public blog, but couldn't think of a better word then lover).
I definitely believe there are exceptions, but I thought that described Ben and me pretty well. When Ben and I first met, I am sure people were like, "how did they get together?" A leader from our church even asked if Ben ever talked on our dates because he is so shy (to be honest, I couldn't get him to stop talking- we always had great conversations right from the start). But, it works out perfectly- when we go to parties, I get to do all the talking- which I enjoy- and Ben gets to sit back and wish he wasn't there- which he enjoys (kind-of). But even though we are opposite, our core values are the same and we have the same long-term goals. So, I liked his description, at least for Ben and me. What about you? Are you matched opposites? Matched matched? Opposites opposite? Or, do you just think this guy is crazy and needs to get off the radio?
My perfect Matched Opposite!